Take it Easy on Me Just for a Little While

Curtis and I split a bottle of wine at the Bourgeois Pig last night. We sat at the end of the bar on bolted down stools positioned just a little too close together. I swung slowly like a pendulum between bumping shoulders with him, and bumping shoulders with the woman in her late 40’s drinking vodka gimlets next to me. I only apologized to her for it.

He jokes about me being his “perpetually single” friend and how my presence in a room is not one of a five-foot-zero-inch-hundred-and-ten-pound-twenty-five-year-old but rather that of a person 5′8” and not a day over thirty. He casually mentions mid-sentence that it “smells like summer sausage in here” and wraps his giant calloused hands around the delicate crystal glass. He has hands that look like they should be wrapped in a blue collar or waiting for a few nickles outside a Depression era coal mine. We each take a sip while still smiling. He is wonderful. I bump shoulders with the woman. She ignores my fifth apology.

I tell him that I want to be “normal”. He mistakes “normal” for mediocrity and we argue about this periodically for the next couple of hours.

“Robert says I will only be able to date men who are so laid back that they don’t care about anything or someone who is weirder than I am and if I even try to date someone ‘normal’ I will only find that they don’t like me.” I say over ‘Crimson and Clover’ (over and over).

“But why would you want someone mediocre anyways?”

I don’t correct him. He doesn’t understand. He talks about his ex-wife, the brief marriage he had when he was 21 and she was 19. Jenifer with one N. It lasted under a year. I tell him about my ex, Kenn, with two N’s. I tell him I am changing my name to “something with three N’s, just to be different.”

He laughs and says, “This is why you can’t date someone ‘normal’.”  I silently take note of his use of ‘normal’ as opposed to mediocre. I think he gets it now. We spend the next 45 minutes in meaningless chatter about the bartender’s music selection on this particular evening. I begin to crave silence. The kind of silence that makes you wonder if you have suddenly lost the ability to hear. Curtis hugs me goodbye after plans for coffee and further exploration of mediocrity are made for the following afternoon. I sit, still, in the numerous blurry bar conversations, none of which catches my attention. I put my jacket on, double wrap my scarf and walk out into the well-lit street.

Two steps on the sidewalk and it starts to snow. Big, fluffy, coagulated masses of snow. I head toward my car and walk past it when I realize that the only sound I hear is the muffled click and slide of my boots on the sidewalk that is quickly gathering a thick, wet, white carpeting. I left my car parked there on the street and walked home. It was almost the silence that I was craving. It was so silent in fact, that I could almost hear the whispering voice of Harry Nilsson, who slipped into my brain without warning. Without invitation. Without making a sound until the sound was already made.

I let the memory of my favorite exboyfriend, the one who loved me the most and the best, the one who was weirder than I, the one who sent me the first Harry Nilsson record in my collection, the one who stayed up late on the phone with me and sang “The Moonbeam Song”, walk me home from the bar in the snow. I was somehow comforted by the mere existence of him, even if it just a little intangible now. I was somehow comforted by the lack of mediocrity the whole thing stank of. He made me feel “normal”. I smiled and hummed along:

In the wintertime keep your feet warm
But keep your clothes on and don’t forget me
Keep the memories
But keep your powder dry too

Don’t forget me – don’t forget me
Take it easy on me just for a little while
You know I think about you
Let me know you think about me too